DIVINE ORDER FOR FAMILY (Part 2)
“Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” (Ephesians 5:24-25 NKJV)
God has divinely ordained and strategically positioned the husband as the head of his home or family. Therefore, God’s order, ordinance, or command that the wives should submit to their husbands in everything, just as the Church is subject to Christ in everything.
Paul aptly explains this order in his epistle.
Ephesians 5:22-24 – NKJV
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Any home or family where the husband is not accepted, regarded, or respected as the head as ordained by God is a dysfunctional home.
Similarly, any home where the husband fails to play his God-ordained role as the head efficiently or fails to devote himself to pursuing and fulfilling His God-given purpose as the head is a dysfunctional home.
Sadly, many husbands today are ignorant of their God-ordained role, purpose, or responsibility as the heads of their homes.
What are the God-given responsibilities of the husband as the head of his home or family?
Considering the unique functions the head performs in the human body gives a clear insight into the divine responsibilities of the man or husband as the head of his family (his body).
Let us consider some of these functions.
First, Vision: The organ of sight (eyes) is uniquely positioned in the sockets located in the head. The entire body depends on the eyes to provide vision and direction.
Matthew 6:22-23 – NKJV
22 “The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light.
23 “But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!
Likewise, the husband as the head of his family is the spiritual organ of sight to his family. He is a God-appointed spiritual watchman or overseer over his family. The husband is expected to give a clear vision and direction to his wife and children.
If the husband, as the family’s eye, is good, his family will be full of light. But if the husband is bad, his family will be full of darkness.
When you see darkness (evil) reigning in a home, it is a clear indication that the lamp of the house (the husband) is terrible – either displaced as the head or inefficient as the head.
According to God’s Word, if the husband (who is supposed to be the light) in the home is darkness, the darkness in the home will be great (Matt. 6:23).
Your responsibility as the head to be the light in your home and let your light shine brightly and continually in your home to give light to your family (Matt. 5:15).
Second, Instruction: The organ of hearing and balance (ear) is located in the head to receive and gather information for the body and provide equilibrium or register the head’s orientation.
Likewise, the husband is divinely and strategically positioned as the head to receive, gather, and carry divine instructions to his family.
As the head of your family, God desires to awaken your ear morning by morning to hear and receive clear and specific divine instructions for your family.
Isaiah testifies to this truth.
Isaiah 50:4 – NKJV
4 The Lord GOD has given Me The tongue of the learned, That I should know how to speak A word in season to him who is weary. He awakens Me morning by morning, He awakens My ear to hear as the learned.
Third, Perception: The organ of perception (nose) is divinely placed in the front of the head to help the body breathe, smell, and perceive what is in the environment.
Similarly, the husband as the head of his home is the spiritual organ of breathing, discernment, or perception.
God expects the husband to be fully sensitive or aware of what is happening in the natural and spiritual environment where his family is situated. Therefore, the husband must be sensitive and receptive to pick and decode spiritual signals (Job. 33:14-18).
Fourth, Communication & Provision: The organ of communication (tongue) is located in the mouth situated in the head. Without it, the body may not be able to communicate effectively with its outside environment.
The tongue is also the organ of taste. The mouth is the primary entrance and exit (the gate) of the body—the nourishment the body needs to grow and develop comes into the body through the mouth.
Likewise, as the head of his home, the husband is the mouthpiece or spokesman for his family. He is also the spiritual gatekeeper of his house, which determines what comes in or goes out.
When the husband is efficient as the spiritual gatekeeper of his home, his home will be peaceful. No demon, sickness, or evil will plague his family. But if the husband is not watchful as the gatekeeper, all sorts of evil will invade his home (Isa. 56:9-11).
Jesus said, “When a strong man, fully armed, guards his own palace, his goods are in peace.” (Luke 11:21 NKJV).
As the spiritual spokesman for his home, the husband wields the power of life and death over his wife and children. Your home will be filled with the fruits of your mouth (Prov. 18:20-21).
As the head of the home, your words go a long way to shape, mold, and influence the destiny of your family. The husband is a God-ordained prophet over his family, and he is expected to daily speak forth, declare, and release God’s blessings upon his family.
Fifth, Coordination & Recollection: In the head’s skull is the brain – the powerbase and storehouse of the body. It controls and coordinates all the activities of the body. It is the storage where essential pieces of information are reserved and recalled when needed.
Likewise, as the head, the husband is expected to coordinate and oversee the activities of his family. The failure or inefficiency of Adam to manage or coordinate his family’s affairs in the Garden of Eden was what gave the devil an inroad into his home and the human race.
Paul writes, “And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.” (1 Tim. 2:14 NKJV).
When the husband abdicates his God-given place, authority, duties, or responsibilities as the head of his home, it is not his wife but the devil who will take over the affairs of his house.
Sixth, Meditation: The human brain or mind is the organ of meditation. It helps the body to think, meditate and brainstorm.
When the family is faced with challenges, the husband must rise to the occasion and prayerfully think through and proffer solutions. But, unfortunately, the husband’s failure as the head may bring confusion into the home and set the stage for manipulation or bewitchment.
Seventh, Imagination: The brain or mind cannot only reserve and recall, think, or meditate, but it also has an inherent ability to visualize or imagine. Imagination is the womb that births innovations or inventions.
The husband, as the head, is expected to see, perceive and imagine great and noble things and to birth them into reality for the benefit of his family. His failure may result in stagnation or regression of his family.
Beloved, as the husband, when you are truly active and efficient in your God-given place as the head, your family will abound in God’s blessing and become a great blessing to society.
Therefore, God is calling you today to awake out of your complacency, indifference, or inefficiency and rise to begin to fulfill your divine role and purpose as the head of your family.
Don’t shirk your responsibilities to your wife and thus abdicate your sacred place, power, or authority in your home to the devil.
The Scripture commands you to “give no opportunity to the devil.” (Eph. 4:27 RSV).
Prayer: My Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for opening my eyes of understanding today to my sacred place, purpose, and responsibilities as the head of my family. I receive abundant grace, wisdom, and strength to begin to operate efficiently as the head in my home, in Jesus’ name. Amen.