DIVINE ORDER FOR FAMILY (Part 1)
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.” (Ephesians 5:22-23 NKJV)
God is a God of order. He abhors disorder and confusion. God dwells, operates and manifests His glory in a place of order. It is only in the place where divine order is embraced and respected that God commands His blessings and manifests His glory.
God waited patiently until Moses had built the Tabernacle according to the heavenly pattern revealed to him on the Mountain and finished setting and arranging all its utensils in their proper position before coming down to inhabit and fill it with His awesome glory (Exo. 25:40, 40:1-38).
Many homes or families today are void of God’s glory, presence and blessing because they despise, disrespect and disregard God’s order and pattern for home or family.
According to God’s order and pattern, the husband is the head of the home.
Paul clearly presents God’s order in the family in his epistle.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. (NKJV).
Therefore, any home or family where this divine order and pattern is despised, disregarded or set aside; God’s purposes may be hindered, delayed or frustrated.
When the man or the husband who is divinely ordained, wired, configured, equipped and strategically positioned to be the head in the home is despised, disrespected, disregarded, or displaced; the devil takes over and establishes his kingdom in the home or family.
The husband is God-ordained governing authority in the home!
The Scripture warns, “Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves.” (Rom. 13:2 NKJV).
Many families today are under the influence of the devil because of their disrespect and disregard for God-ordained authority in the home or family.
Many families today are laboring, toiling and struggling in vain as a consequence of resisting and rejecting the order or ordinance of God for family (the husband as the head of the home).
Many challenges that are confronting our society today stem from either the displacement or the inefficiency of the men whom God has uniquely created, specially ordained, and strategically positioned to be the head in the family, which is the building block of the society.
It is families that actually make up our communities and cities. Whatever happens in the family does not stay within the family; it flows out to the streets and cities. Every evil in our society today is an offshoot of the evil in our homes or families.
So, if we fail to deal with the foundation of evil in our families, we cannot deal with it effectively in our society. Whatever will happen to our society, either good or bad, happens first in the families that make up the society.
It is therefore very crucial for every man or husband who has been displaced or become redundant as the head of his home or family to be revived, restored and repositioned to function efficiently and effectively as the head according to God’s divine order and pattern for family.
When godly and responsible men take their divine position and play their unique role as the heads in their homes, God’s presence, glory and blessing will fill their homes and overflow to their streets and cities.
The fall of the first man, Adam, was as a result of his failure or inefficiency as the head of his family or home.
When the devil came around to tempt Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden it might have been a different story if it was Adam who accosted or confronted the devil, who came to them in a subtle manner as serpent.
When Eve took the place of Adam in the Garden as the one who God had put in charge, it became easy for the devil to usurp the position and authority of Adam.
Paul reveals this truth.
1 Timothy 2:
14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (NKJV).
Sadly, many wives today have also usurped the position and authority of their husbands in the home contrary to God’s order and pattern. As a consequence, the devil is reigning unhindered today in many homes and families.
Truly, many wives never set out deliberately to usurp the authority or responsibility of their husbands, but for the failure, inefficiency or irresponsibility of their husbands.
Unfortunately, many men or husbands today are totally ignorant of what God expects of them as the heads of their families.
Therefore, if God’s order for family is going to be fully restored in any family, the man or the husband must wake up to his God-given responsibilities or obligations as the head of the family.
Beloved, understanding the strategic position, role or responsibilities of your physical head in your body will give you a good clue to your position, role, purpose or responsibilities as the spiritual head of your body (family).
What are the unique functions of the head in the physical body?
Find out in the second part of this piece!
Prayer: Dear Holy Spirit, open my eyes of understanding to my unique divine position and purpose as the head of my family, in Jesus’ name. Amen.